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Why you keep attracting the ‘wrong’ guys or the same crappy relationships

In this blog post I want to address an issue that many people struggle with and ask me about all the time:

Why do I keeep attracting the same guys or types of relationships?

And this was something that I struggled with for a long, long time. Yet when I came to and was guided to some of the realisations that I’ll share in this post it helped me to shift my perspective. Which helped me in not falling into the same patterns and having to go back to square one in terms of healing, aligning and attracting what I want.

So, in sharing I’m hoping that it will help you in some way too and get you aligned with experiencing the love you want.


1. Stop labelling them as the ‘wrong’ man 
In the world of spirituality, energy and law of attraction there is no real wrong or right. Yet there are many lessons and blessings. For every relationship that hasn’t ended with ‘happily ever after’ there will be a lesson and blessing to be savioured from it. For every man who has abandoned you, cheated on you or let you down there will be more lessons and blessings to be gained.

It’s up to you to find them.

It could be that you found your own strength, fell back in love with you, started a new hobby that became a successful business, discovered the power of forgiveness or taught you the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

The bottom line is when you set an intention to attract your true love, your soul and all of your spiritual team may have to show you your barriers to love first. Once you overcome those barriers you get to align, receive and enjoy.


2. Time to change the record 
What record about love, relationships and men are you playing on repeat in your mind or aloud amongst your girlfriends over wine on a Friday night? 

You’ll know what your record is by the way in which you:

Talk about men, love and relationships 
React or respond when you see loved up couples or hear someone is dating someone new 

The thoughts and responses that you have are all very, very telling about how you truly feel about your chances of being in a loving, happy and committed relationship with the man of your dreams. 

This is important to know when it comes to the mind because they say that your mind cannot hold conflicting thoughts, stories and beliefs. That which has the weakest vibration will be cancelled out by the one with the dominant vibration. So, if you think and feel you are not good enough and all men are cheating bastards, yet say you want to meet ‘the one’. Which thought do you think carries the most weight?


3. Holding on to the past 
I see it a lot and am guilty of having done this myself. It’s something that’s easily done especially when you’ve invested time and energy into a relationship, or when it’s been a while since you met someone whose sparked a light within. However, when the spark has gone or when the relationship is dead, it’s important to find a way to let it all go.

Holding onto the past equates to holding onto old energy. Energy that’s ready to be released. I learned the hard way that until I energetically let go and made up my mind to move on, I would play the going back and forth game much longer than needed. 

Sometimes the new and the better relationship + person, are right there for you yet whilst you’re holding on you won’t see it. There are times that even when you do see it you fail to appreciate it or you pick faults where there are none. Unintentionally, talking yourself out of the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.


4. Check the company you keep
Carrying on from letting go, you may find that some people in your circle need to be added to the list. 

Yep, the sad truth is: Not everyone is for you!

If you are rolling with people who are constantly male-bashing, don’t clap when you win, seldom ask how you are but happily moan about their own life or constantly repeat BS cycles in love and life, decide if you want to be hanging with them every weekend. 

IThe people in your circle should be supportive. They should have your back and want to see you win. Being inspired and uplifted goes a long way too.

Notice who’s there for you and don’t be afraid to make some edits. If only for a specific period of time.


5. How you feel about yourself matters
How you truly feel about yourself often resonates on the outside and the way that you treat yourself. It also has an impact on what and who you attract, as well as what you entertain or put up with too.

When you are investing in yourself and naturally feeling good you are not going to want anyone killing your vibe. Therefore, you’ll be more discerning about the relationships you get into and the men you engage with. In fact, I’ve found that when I started investing in me it was much easier to separate the boys from the potential kings.

So, what can you do to invest in how you look and feel from the inside out?

This might involve making changes to your morning routine, such as introducing gratitude, prayer, meditation and mirror work. Alternatively, you may want to do more outer beauty work to raise your vibe, such as changing your eating habits, hitting the gym, updating your wardrobe or experimenting with colour in your beauty routine. Maybe it’s a combination of inner and outer beauty.

Whatever it is make sure that your attention and intention revolves around you. Raising your own vibration so that you feel and look amazing from the inside out.


Once you notice your patterns and habits you have the opportunity to make a different choice.

People of all kinds will still be attracted to you. However, with wisdom, awareness and discernment you can make smarter (for want of a better word) decisions about who you get into a relationship with. After all, it is you who choose what and who you entertain and for how long. Don’t prolong the lesson and starve yourself of the ultimate blessing that your heart desires.

So, that’s all I have for you this week. If anything has resonated with you and you’ve enjoyed the post please do hit the follow button, as well as share this blog on your social media pages. If you wanted to ask me any questions or book a 1-2-1 session based on this topic then contact me here.

With lots of love and gratitude xo

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Transformation. Evolving. Dissolving resistance at the Full Moon.

ANGELIC REIKI

The new season has brought with it the energy of change and transformation. Something that many of us at experience at our own level.

I’ve found that transformation, growth and evolving will bring with it that sudden rush of excitement, wonder, curiosity, and hopefulness. This is often followed by resistance. Fear. Guilt.

The happy hormones take a break and give your cells some time to catch up with the all the newness that you are conjuring up!

In my own world, I have tended to find this a week where resistance tends to be at it’s strongest under the gaze of the Full Moon.

The Full Moon heightens our emotions. Bringing to the surface all of the things and people that are in opposition to that which we want to experience, especially in relation to the intentions set at the time of the New Moon. So, this has become a time that I have used this time to “go with the flow” as much as I possibly can. Rather than resisting what is coming up, I’ve tried to flow with it and allow it to be released.

So, I know that sometimes is much easier said than done!

This is especially the case when the old ways, old faces and old places resurface. Reminding you of what needs to be released or shifted to support you in aligning with the new.

To support you through this I’ll share my own magical keys for working with the energy of the Full Moon to facilitate transformation and evolving:

TUNE IN

Your body will tell you when it needs to rest. Your intuition will let you know when it’s time to pause or move forward. Your soul team will guide you towards what is for you right now. Tune in. Do so with meditation, prayer, writing or awareness.

PRAYER

A simple prayer focused towards the solution. One of my favourites is:

“Thank you for showing me where to go, what to do and what to say to whom.”

Another of my favourites is: “I surrender.” Two simple words that can lighten the load. An invitation to God and soul team to take the reins.

CONNECTION

Connection to self or like-minded people. Somehow they both tend to lead back to one another. To fill you up and raise your vibration. To bring you back to centre when you fall.

In the Full Moon ebook, I have also included further tools and practices from my own spiritual vanity case.

I will leave you here, yet I truly hope that you will pivot towards releasing (or whatever else you feel you need right now) so that you can stick with your new intentions, desires, and transformation.

If you could do with a little something extra I will share some notes of inspiration here too.

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New Moon Time: Step into the real You!

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And what a hell of a new moon this one is.

Over the last few days, I’ve been going through a bit of an energy clearing. Initially, I thought it was a bug due to the sudden change in weather. On remembering the forthcoming New Moon eclipse, I knew this was a purging of energy. An upgrade was on the cards and from the conversations, I have been having it would seem that I am not the only one experiencing the purge.

So, what’s the deal with this new moon?

Intuitively I’m feeling that as much as it’s about calling in the new; which is typical to new moons. It’s also about preparing yourself energetically and mentally for what it is that you want to experience.  Ultimately, it’s about stepping into the real you.

For those of light warriors and hot mess goddesses of light, it’s also about us stepping fully into our light. No more pussyfooting around it’s all or nothing now.

Trust me, I’m getting the universal kick up the bum too. #togetherwerise

In order to step up, you also have to do some clearing out of the old, which can often live you in this space of limbo between the old and new. Thankfully, the New Moon will support us to close that gap by working with it to begin that process of visioning who it is that you want to be!

Obviously, you can think about the things that you want to manifest and experience but this moon is more about YOU! Who you are becoming and who you want to become. In some cases, who you are currently moulding into isn’t necessarily who you desire to be. If that’s the case, it’s as good a time as any to make that change!

How to make the most of it

Be super clear about what it is that you want to experience and call into your life. This isn’t a time for being modest or playing small either. Dream big yet be sure to make it all manageable for yourself, as well as calling in necessary support, to avoid feeling overwhelmed or giving up at the first hurdle.

Cos there will always be hurdles!

Questions to ask yourself:

  • What is feasible to call in, experience and step into over the coming months?
  • Then take it long term: What do you want to experience further down the line?
  • What can you do to align with the woman that lives that life?

The key message coming through is: The work you do on yourself is an inside job yet it will resonate on the outside too.

Lately, I’m coming across a few women wanting to make changes to their outer appearance too. Think diets, new clothes and upping their beauty game. If that’s you then you go for it. Don’t let people deceive you into thinking that it’s not important. If it’s important to you and is being guided to up your game:

Go for it! This is all about you stepping into the woman that you were created to be.

Leo energy is bold, proud and doesn’t mind standing out from the crowd. I mean just look at Jlo and Madonna. Both are unafraid to change their image or look their best!

And, it goes without saying that it’s a time to set intentions. With the vibe of Leo being bold, fun, creative, joy and expressive then it’s a no-brainer that your intentions will be to do with what brings you in alignment with all of that!

Ultimately…….

You will find that some doors are closing and others are opening. Will you keep banging on or returning to the door that’s closed or the ones that are opening up? Often to do the latter requires a new You. Will you let the new You emerge?

This New Moon is really all about You! It’s about getting yourself aligned and feeling good from the inside out. So, whatever is falling apart or whoever is drifting away: Let it!

If you need a hand, I am at the end of an email, ready to help you to help yourself! This is your time, pretty lady!

With love

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Day 4: Crystals + your feminine spirit

One thing I’ve increasingly noticed is the tendency for women to push aside their femininity in order to stay on top of their game at work or simply survive in the workplace. Something that I’ve been guilty of myself. However, as I and many others have learned, living your life in that way isn’t sustainable. It soon takes its toll on you physically and drains your spirit.

It’s partly due to this that so many women find this burning desire within to quit their jobs or simply find themselves attracted to spirituality, as well as mindful practices.

However, it’s not just the practices and rituals, it’s that opportunity to reconnect with yourself as a woman. Awakening your femininity and embracing all that it means to be the woman that you were created to be.

This full embodiment of the real you is something that many of us strive for, yet do so by focusing on6 all that is outside of ourselves first. Not recognising that it all comes from within first and radiates outwards. Being shown as grace, inner confidence and that elusive glow. Isn’t that what you want to experience and embody?


RECLAIMING YOUR FEMININE SPIRIT

Although all of the crystals we have encountered have touched on aspects of our inner beauty that many of us want to nurture, eg: Self-love and confidence. Today’s crystals will focus on reclaiming and fully awakening your femininity.

Moonstone

As its name suggests this crystal is aligned with the energy of the moon. So don’t be surprised if you are drawn to Moonstone during your menstrual cycle or at the time of the Full and New Moon. Its also a crystal that connects you to your own femininity, inner goddess and sacred beauty. With many swearing by the benefits of meditating with Moonstone during the time of the Full/New Moon, enhancing your intuition and connection within. What’s more feminine than that?

Garnet

This crystal is perfect for those who are ready to bring their sexy back and unleash their wild spirit. Garnet is a crystal associated with passion and physical love. It also dissolves any blockages in the lower chakras which is where we can often hold onto those feelings and memories that prevent us from fully connecting with ourselves, as well as others.

Labradorite

A stunning stone to look at, Labradorite is considered a ‘magic stone’. A stone that has the ability to reawaken the magic that lies within you and opens you up to using it in order to manifest, as well as being good luck into your life.


WORKING WITH THE PHASES OF THE MOON

Crystal rituals can be completed at any time, although the Full Moon is particularly potent time to connect with your divine feminine.

This is because the moon is at its fullest and it’s a powerful time to honor all of what your feeling, whilst releasing what is no longer in alignment with the woman you are becoming.

Equally, if you feel drawn, you may want to also work with your divine feminine crystals during a new moon, especially if you wanting to embody new aspects of your personality. Reason being that the new moon is a time of calling in the new and fresh starts.

Incidentally, there is a New Moon next week on June 13th so that’s the perfect time to connect with your feminine crystals.

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Day 1: Rose Quartz

Loving yourself and feeling confident in your own skin are key aspects of sacred beauty. It promotes healthy self-esteem and a sense of self-worth that comes from within. Meaning that you don’t feel the need to look for validation from others or feel the need to change in order to fit in, be accepted or feel loved.

Yet, in today’s modern world this isn’t always easy. Pressure from social media, magazines and celeb culture can often leave women feeling like they have to conform to be beautiful. And let’s not forget the pain and anguish that comes from heartbreak, bullying and other soul-destroying situations, which can leave you feeling un-pretty, unworthy and less than in so many ways.

Whilst there are many methods that can be used to heal and move beyond these feelings there are little gems from the Earth which, if used alongside these methods, can give your healing a little energetic boost.

These gems are crystals, with Rose Quartz being the perfect crystal for all things sacred beauty and love related.


LOVE + ROSE QUARTZ:

A LITTLE BACKGROUND

Don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first.” – Carrie Bradshaw

Rose Quartz is one of those crystals which can be hugely underestimated. It’s often thought of that crystal that helps us to attract the lover of our dreams. Yet it is so much more than this. In fact, before it even draws the love another close it will show you all the ways that you need to love yourself first!

This candy pink gemstone is a nurturing stone. A stone of compassion and unconditional love. Making it a beautiful companion during times of heartache or pain, including period pain. As it’s soothing, healing and energy of unconditional love it works to dissolve those barriers of pain, sadness and fear.


HOW TO MAKE ROSE QUARTZ PART OF YOUR DAILY LIFE

There are many different ways to make this crystal part of your everyday life. For example, it’s believed that the Goddess Aphrodite used to place Rose Quartz in her bath so that the loving energy of the crystal could be absorbed into her body and energy field. This way of working with crystals has been adopted by many modern sacred beauties, like you and I. It’s certainly a beautiful way to relax at the end of a stressful day. I can vouch for that.

One way that I make Rose Quartz part of my day is by keeping a small selection of tumbled stones in a glass bowl on my dressing table. This helps to hold the vibration of unconditional love, self-love and beauty as I apply my makeup. It’s also a personal reminder for me too.

As Rose Quartz resonates with the heart chakra it makes sense to place it over your heart chakra during meditation. This can have the effect of opening the heart of receive love whilst also promoting relaxation. You might like to try this heart-centred meditation.

Alternatively, you may simply wish to wear your Rose Quartz in your bra, so it’s close to your heart space or adorns your wrist with a beautiful Rose Quartz bracelet. How you choose to connect with and work with your crystal is entirely up to you.


ARE YOU READY TO MAKE ROSE QUARTZ PART OF YOUR LIFE?

Loving yourself, recognising your own beauty and being confident in your own skin are essential ingredients for Sacred Beauty. So, if you could with a little support in this area Rose Quartz can be a great tool to work with. Using it alongside affirmations, meditation, Angelic Reiki or other forms of self-development as it helps to amplify the energy of your intention.

If you are thinking of or already do work with Rose Quartz I’d love to hear from you. Comment below and I’ll respond to your comment.

Look forward to hearing your experiences.

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Modern woman’s guide to raising your vibe with crystals

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“Crystal healing is the belief that the metaphysical energy of crystals + gemstones can assist in the healing of the emotional, spiritual & physical body.”

– Victoria Forster, Co-founder of Venusrox

I love this excerpt from an interview with Victoria Forster because she sums up crystal healing in such a simplistic way. Which is perfect because working with crystals is simple and, in my own experience, it is the simplest way to raise your vibration, whilst adding a little beauty and sparkle to your everyday life. However, with the multitude of books, courses, websites and products out there you would think that incorporating crystals into your everyday life is rocket science when really it doesn’t have to be.


HOW I GOT STARTED + BANISHING A CRYSTAL MYTH

When I first discovered crystals I was about 7 years old and was on a school trip to Chislehurst Caves. Whilst everybody else was buying novelty pencils and rubbers I was choosing the best Amethyst and Clear Quartz crystals for mum and me. Yet, it wasn’t until I was in university that I started to really get into them.

Beginning with using Rose Quartz to banish crippling period pain, boosting my confidence and attracting attention from male admirers. At the time, it was non-intentional and totally experimental. By that, I mean that I wasn’t setting an intention for how to work with my crystal and had no idea about the properties of Rose Quartz. However, the little Rose Quartz that I had borrowed from my mum, worked for me in the most beautiful, loving, intuitive and miraculous way.

For me, that is the beauty of crystals: They know exactly what you need, even if you don’t and are not even sure what to do in order to connect with them. This is because crystals will respond to your most dominant vibration (your energy). Lifting, balancing and giving you what you need energetically in order to move forward with a little more ease and grace. Therefore, I always feel that the key things you need when working with crystals are an open heart and an open mind, as well as a healthy dose of detachment.


CLEANSING YOUR CRYSTALS

It is important to cleanse your crystals before you use them. Even if they have been tucked away in your crystal box for some time, it is wise to perform a simple cleansing ritual because crystals store energy. Therefore, it is possible that your crystal may have absorbed energy that may not resonate with you.

There are many schools of thoughts, methods and suggestions for cleaning your crystals. Yet the ones that I subscribe to can be performed with ease and do not require lots of preparation or additional effort. Try one or all of the following and see which one floats your boat:
#1: Water

This is where I started, holding my crystals under running water with the intention of clearing the energy, and sometimes I would soak the crystals in water overnight.
#2: Sage

Pass the crystal through the smoke of Sage and saying an affirming prayer to clear the energy of the crystal. Sage has been used since ancient times, believed to remove negative energy and restore energetic balance within a space.
#3: Prayer and intention

Hold the crystal in your hand or by your heart and say a prayer of intention, speaking directly from your heart. One prayer that I have come across recently and absolutely love is this one from Energy Muse:

“I ask that the highest vibration of love+ light connect with my highest self to clear all unwanted energy + previous programming. I command these crystals to _____________. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”

People often ask me how often they should be cleansing their crystals. My personal stance is that I clear the energy of the crystals each time I am working with it for something new. This way I clear all previous programming and any unwanted energy. In saying that, I also trust my intuition and the connection that I have with that crystal. Therefore, if I feel that the energy of the crystal is getting a little heavy or that it feel ‘weak’, for want of a better word, I clear the energy using the method that I feel drawn to at that time.

Despite the fact that I have completed crystal healing and reading courses, my interaction with my crystals is still based on my intuition and personal experiences. Sometimes I feel that this is best because the crystal is working with you and your energy, so what works for others may not necessarily work with you.


CRYSTAL MUST-HAVES

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Choosing the right crystal for you tends to be a very intuitive process whereby the crystal will often choose you, connecting with your vibration. However, I have found over the years that there are crystals that I simply cannot live without and that I return to over again to support me in different areas of my life. These crystals are:
#1: Clear Quartz
Crystal all-rounder and tension reliever. It can also be used to amplify the energy of your intention + other crystals.
#2: Howlite
This crystal will bring a wave of calm when you are feeling a little stress or overwhelmed. It’s a great meditation companion.
#3: Rose Quartz
The infamous stone of love is a healing and soothing stone. Shows you your barriers to love + aids sleep.
#4: Black Tourmaline
A stone of protection that grounds and shields you from energy, especially negative energy, that’s not yours.
#5: Selenite
Your guardian angel in crystal form. This crystal cleanses your energy, unblocking that stuck energy + bringing a sense of calm.
#6: Citrine
More commonly known as the abundance stone as it can be used for manifesting abundance. Promotes confidence and positivity in the wearer.


INCORPORATING CRYSTALS INTO YOUR DAILY LIFE

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There are many ways to incorporate crystals into your daily life and it really doesn’t have to be complicated. One of the most effective and easy ways that I find for doing this is wearing them in my bra. Although, you can carry your crystals in your pocket or handbag, as well as keeping them on your desk, altar, under your pillow or in a crystal grid. You may even want to hold a crystal in your hand whilst you are meditation or visualising in order to amplify the energy of your intention. This will be supportive in getting you in energetic alignment.


TAKE YOUR POWER BACK AT WORK

I’ve been fortunate enough to work in every single career field that I have wanted to, overcoming opposition, challenge and many nay-sayers. In addition to this, I’ve incorporated crystals into my law of attraction rituals and prayers, giving me a little energy boost and alignment.

I have also used crystals when I was having a hard time at work, especially when working in negative environments or people where it was essential that I stay in my own energy. Two crystals that I find really helps with this are Selenite and Black Tourmaline, incorporating them into my energy protection practice and wearing them in my bra whilst at work. You can find out more about each of these crystals by re-reading the crystal must-haves section above.

If you are in need of a little confidence boost and good luck in a work project or job hunt, then Aquamarine is a good crystal helper. Not only does it emit a relaxing and calming vibrational, yet I found that it boosts your confidence and gives you the motivation to simply just go for it.


ARE YOU READY TO LIFT YOUR VIBRATION WITH CRYSTALS?

Whether you are manifesting a new job, healing a broken-heart or protecting yourself against negative energy in the workplace there will be a crystal for you. So, are you ready to make crystals a part of your life and lift your vibration? Are you already using crystals in your daily life?

I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences, which you can post in the comments section below.

The key is to get started and build your own relationship with your crystals, exploring and experiencing how to the crystal connects with your energy. And there’s no better time to do that then now.