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Meditation for the busy modern woman

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Meditation is one practice that I’ve always had an on, off love affair with. Sometimes I’ll be on it, meditating in the am and the pm. Then, at other times, I’ll find myself slacking.

I used to get annoyed with myself for not wanting to meditate. Going into this space of, almost forcing myself to meditate. After all, meditation is what us spiritual types are meant to do, right?

These days I do find myself meditating every day and that’s because I want to. That’s because I’ve have created a ‘no pressure’ practice that fits in with my lifestyle. As a result of this, I’ve found that I actually enjoy it.

I’ve also made a few discoveries along the way that hopefully will inspire you to start and create your own meditation practice that works for you.


DISCOVERY #1: LET GO OF YOUR PRECONCEPTIONS

People tend to shy away from meditation because they think that they “can’t” do it or they have tried it and found it hard to shut off the ‘monkey mind’. I was exactly the same and still have does when I am a bit restless. However, I know that I can meditate for 50 minutes straight because I have done so in the past and I am sure that you could too. All you need to do is move beyond the lies that you tell yourself so that you can show up and create a practice that works for you.

While you are at it: Drop the meditation rules.

There are no rigid rules. It’s about creating a practice that works for you and that you benefit from.

DISCOVERY #2: DITCH THE MIND CHATTER

I often find, especially when I am feeling stressed that it helps to ditch the mind clutter. This mind clutter usually consists of the ‘monkey mind’ thoughts that get in the way of your meditation, so why not ditch them early?

One way to do this is by grabbing a blank piece of paper and a pen, then just writing out your thoughts and feelings. Don’t hold back just empty your mind onto the paper. Even if that simply includes: I need to buy new shoes for my date on Friday night. Write it out and create space within.


DISCOVERY #3: PURPOSE + FEELING

There are now so many different types of meditations out there that it is easy to become overwhelmed by all of the choices. Therefore, I suggest that you ascertain how you want to feel and why you want to meditate.

It could be that you want to balance your chakras, relax, practice forgiveness, connect to the spirit or ease yourself into a restful night’s sleep. You might want to feel more focused or raise your vibration. When you know your purpose and how you want to feel you can use this to guide you to the meditation that is right for you at that time. This is especially useful when using Apps such as the Insight Timer where meditations are split into categories.


DISCOVERY #4: MEDITATE ON THE GO

You do not have to be glued to your meditation cushion in order to meditate. Simply being outside in nature, going out for the walk or putting your earphones in and listening to a meditation track on the bus can be enough. God knows that I have done all three in my time.

Personally, I find that just by taking those 5 or 10 minutes to myself on the bus, train or tube helps to chill me out, relax, reconnect and ground, if only just for a while. That short while can really make a difference to how you feel on the inside and how you show up on the outside. Whilst also bringing a sense of perspective and balance that you may have missed had you not given yourself permission to experience a moment or two of stillness.

In fact, some people suggest that the act of walking, especially in nature, can be a form of meditation in motion.

It’s for this reason that I have one or two meditation apps downloaded and a few more saved in the music player on my mobile.


DISCOVERY #5: DON’T LET IT GET BORING

When meditation felt like a chore or routine that’s when I’d skip my practice. So, I’m happy to mix things up and do what works for me. As long as I arrive at my desired experience or feeling outcome that’s the most important thing.

Mixing it up may look different for each person. It could be that you do a 10-minute meditation rather than 50 minutes. Maybe you meditate to your favourite songs, like I have been known to. Perhaps you do a 30-day chakra meditation to balance your chakras and restore balance from within.

One way around this is to commit to 5 days of meditating each morning, afternoon, evening, day or whatever works for you. At the end of the week reflect on what worked and what didn’t. Make adjustments and tweaks here there, whilst keeping what worked before committing to another 5 or 10 days of meditation. Over time, you’ll build up a meditation practice that works for you at that phase in your life. I say “at that phase in your life” because things change. Life changes. You change. So, you have to adapt to these changes and that may also involve making changes to your meditation practice.


ARE YOU READY TO MEDITATE?

Even if you begin with just 2 minutes of meditation then start there and build up over time because this is how you cultivate a practice that works for you.

To get you started I highly recommend the Rituals app which is my new favourite meditation app and you can also shop for Rituals goodies too, which are absolutely divine. Download the Rituals app here, you won’t regret it.

Here are few more of my favourites:

Chakra Clearing

Forgiveness

Binaural Beats

Do you have a meditation practice that is working wonders for you? Would you like to start meditating and if so, what’s holding you back?

I love hearing from you, so feel free to share in the comments space below.

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