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Why you keep attracting the ‘wrong’ guys or the same crappy relationships

In this blog post I want to address an issue that many people struggle with and ask me about all the time:

Why do I keeep attracting the same guys or types of relationships?

And this was something that I struggled with for a long, long time. Yet when I came to and was guided to some of the realisations that I’ll share in this post it helped me to shift my perspective. Which helped me in not falling into the same patterns and having to go back to square one in terms of healing, aligning and attracting what I want.

So, in sharing I’m hoping that it will help you in some way too and get you aligned with experiencing the love you want.


1. Stop labelling them as the ‘wrong’ man 
In the world of spirituality, energy and law of attraction there is no real wrong or right. Yet there are many lessons and blessings. For every relationship that hasn’t ended with ‘happily ever after’ there will be a lesson and blessing to be savioured from it. For every man who has abandoned you, cheated on you or let you down there will be more lessons and blessings to be gained.

It’s up to you to find them.

It could be that you found your own strength, fell back in love with you, started a new hobby that became a successful business, discovered the power of forgiveness or taught you the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

The bottom line is when you set an intention to attract your true love, your soul and all of your spiritual team may have to show you your barriers to love first. Once you overcome those barriers you get to align, receive and enjoy.


2. Time to change the record 
What record about love, relationships and men are you playing on repeat in your mind or aloud amongst your girlfriends over wine on a Friday night? 

You’ll know what your record is by the way in which you:

Talk about men, love and relationships 
React or respond when you see loved up couples or hear someone is dating someone new 

The thoughts and responses that you have are all very, very telling about how you truly feel about your chances of being in a loving, happy and committed relationship with the man of your dreams. 

This is important to know when it comes to the mind because they say that your mind cannot hold conflicting thoughts, stories and beliefs. That which has the weakest vibration will be cancelled out by the one with the dominant vibration. So, if you think and feel you are not good enough and all men are cheating bastards, yet say you want to meet ‘the one’. Which thought do you think carries the most weight?


3. Holding on to the past 
I see it a lot and am guilty of having done this myself. It’s something that’s easily done especially when you’ve invested time and energy into a relationship, or when it’s been a while since you met someone whose sparked a light within. However, when the spark has gone or when the relationship is dead, it’s important to find a way to let it all go.

Holding onto the past equates to holding onto old energy. Energy that’s ready to be released. I learned the hard way that until I energetically let go and made up my mind to move on, I would play the going back and forth game much longer than needed. 

Sometimes the new and the better relationship + person, are right there for you yet whilst you’re holding on you won’t see it. There are times that even when you do see it you fail to appreciate it or you pick faults where there are none. Unintentionally, talking yourself out of the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.


4. Check the company you keep
Carrying on from letting go, you may find that some people in your circle need to be added to the list. 

Yep, the sad truth is: Not everyone is for you!

If you are rolling with people who are constantly male-bashing, don’t clap when you win, seldom ask how you are but happily moan about their own life or constantly repeat BS cycles in love and life, decide if you want to be hanging with them every weekend. 

IThe people in your circle should be supportive. They should have your back and want to see you win. Being inspired and uplifted goes a long way too.

Notice who’s there for you and don’t be afraid to make some edits. If only for a specific period of time.


5. How you feel about yourself matters
How you truly feel about yourself often resonates on the outside and the way that you treat yourself. It also has an impact on what and who you attract, as well as what you entertain or put up with too.

When you are investing in yourself and naturally feeling good you are not going to want anyone killing your vibe. Therefore, you’ll be more discerning about the relationships you get into and the men you engage with. In fact, I’ve found that when I started investing in me it was much easier to separate the boys from the potential kings.

So, what can you do to invest in how you look and feel from the inside out?

This might involve making changes to your morning routine, such as introducing gratitude, prayer, meditation and mirror work. Alternatively, you may want to do more outer beauty work to raise your vibe, such as changing your eating habits, hitting the gym, updating your wardrobe or experimenting with colour in your beauty routine. Maybe it’s a combination of inner and outer beauty.

Whatever it is make sure that your attention and intention revolves around you. Raising your own vibration so that you feel and look amazing from the inside out.


Once you notice your patterns and habits you have the opportunity to make a different choice.

People of all kinds will still be attracted to you. However, with wisdom, awareness and discernment you can make smarter (for want of a better word) decisions about who you get into a relationship with. After all, it is you who choose what and who you entertain and for how long. Don’t prolong the lesson and starve yourself of the ultimate blessing that your heart desires.

So, that’s all I have for you this week. If anything has resonated with you and you’ve enjoyed the post please do hit the follow button, as well as share this blog on your social media pages. If you wanted to ask me any questions or book a 1-2-1 session based on this topic then contact me here.

With lots of love and gratitude xo

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Healing with the Angels

I didn’t choose Angelic Healing (Reiki). It chose me.

You’ll often hear practitioners say a similar thing. Having been introduced to a particular modality at a pivotal time in their life. I was much the same.

Although I’d never heard of Angelic Reiki it popped up in my search as I looked for a Reiki level 1 course one summer.

It was never my intention to share it with others. In fact, I simply wanted to use it to feel more calmer, relaxed and grounded in my stressful job.

Little did I know that Angelic Reiki would take me on a journey of karmic soulmate + past life revealing + clearing, heart healing, self love, clearing money energy blocks, physical healing……. Healing myself before helping others.

The reason I share it now because I wholeheartedly believe in it.

WHAT I’VE LEARNED FROM MY ANGELIC REIKI PRACTICE
With Angelic Reiki I’ve found that even if you don’t always feel the energy shifts within, during a session, the healing is still being done on a cellular and energetic level. Maybe releasing you from a connection in another space or time.

The Angels know where to go.

Your soul knows what you are ready to release. Facilitating this for your own growth, expansion, alignment and wellbeing.

What I’ve found to be key when it comes to healing is awareness by which you notice that is coming up for you after the session. Then there’s having this readiness to do the work because healing is work YOU do with the Angels.

I always say:

“Healing (with the Angels) doesn’t make all your shit just disappear. Sometimes there is work on your part to be done too.”

Often things will be bought to the surface. People reflecting an age old story or belief will surface. Not to drag you down the same road but to make you aware of your own BS.

The choice you make is to continue playing the game with the cards you know or play with new rules and new cards.

Be aware and take action if you want to heal, align and evolve.

✌💋

If you’d like to know more about Angelic Reiki sessions or book a session, including taster sessions please get in contact via my contact page.

Adapted from my Instagram post ‘Healing with the Angels’.

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Communicating with Mother Mary

Mother Mary
Unconditional love. Compassion. Forgiveness. Heart Healing. Protector of women.

Heal your thoughts and heart back to love by connecting with the beautiful, nurturing energy of Mother Mary.

Connecting with Saints came very out of the blue for me. Although I grew up in a Christian/Spiritual household, it never dawned on me that I would connect with Saints in readings and healing sessions.

I never call in Mother Mary or any other Saint specifically. My way is that I simply allow whatever light being who wants to step forward to do so and bring guidance and healing through me.

This has always been the case when working with Mother Mary whereby I find that she will connect with me or clients I am working with, in the following situations:

  • Healing their heart after a break-up
  • Reinventing yourself after ending a love affair
  • Supporting you to open your heart to love
  • Appearing before you are to meet a new partner
  • Forgiving yourself and others

I find that she mostly works alone. Always with the intention of bringing the vibration of love to the forefront and supporting you to access the love and divinity within. Even if that means bringing your barriers to love to your awareness.

However, there have been times when I have connected with her, only to feel the energy of Mother Teresa and receive additional guidance from Princess Diana. All 3 being women who are known for working from the heart and showing compassion for others.


HOW TO CONNECT WITH MOTHER MARY

Most people who connect with Mother Mary have found that they have been able to do so since childhood, that the connection comes out of the blue or they feel drawn to her.

You can simply pray to her for guidance, yet some like to create a weekly or daily ritual of connecting with Mother Mary. Dedicating a specific day and time to do this

Either way, it’s best to come with an open heart and mind.


Some suggestions for your ritual kit 

  • Mother Mary Candle. In the absence of such a candle, you could opt for a Pink candle (love + healing) or a white candle (healing + purification).The candle represents the 4 elements of Earth (the candle), fire (the flame), water (melting wax) and air (the ether in which yoir prayer and positive intentions will be moving through). It’s also a lovely way to open the gateway between you and Mother Mary.
  • Rose Quartz/Bracelet with Mother Mary charm (optional) – Rose Quartz is known as the stone of unconditional love. It helps to open the heart again to giving and receiving love, as well dissolve barriers to love.
  • Mother Mary prayer card. Carry your prayer card (and crystal) with you as a divine reminder of the positive intentions laid out in your prayer to Mother Mary.

Prayer from the heart. Remember to always keep your intentions and prayer requests positive and good.


When working with Saints or when setting a new intention I like to have, what I refer to as Divine Reminders, with me throughout my day. These Divine Reminders might take the form of a crystal, prayer card, affirmation on my phone or charm bracelet.

I find these Divine Reminders really useful, especially at those times when I feel out of alignment, irritated or frustrated by a thought or something that has happened in my day. Catching sight of the Divine Reminder helps to remind me of the intention that I am working towards and I have the choice to surrender to realign or stay in my low vibrational state.

So, if you feel guided or drawn to call on Mother Mary to support you in heart healing, forgiveness and opening up to unconditional love.

Intention and an open heart are all you really need. When you are in this space of being open to receiving and truly connected to your own Divinity within you are better able to receive guidance, discern your surroundings, make informed decisions and become aware of the love around and within you.

What’s your experience of Mother Mary? Which Saint is one of your favourites to connect with? 

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The Art of Letting Go: Why I stopped cutting cords + what I do instead

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Before discovering Angelic Reiki I had practised cord cutting. Using it to support me in detaching myself energetically from a soulmate relationship and person that simply wasn’t right for me.

I must have completed this practice a dozen times or more. Yet every time I found myself going back to the soulmate or repeating the same patterns with a different person. Each time the experience would be more challenging and painful than the last. Which meant that I was in this cycle of continually cutting the cords. However, when I became an Angelic Reiki practitioner I discovered key elements of the core removal process that changed everything.


WHAT I NOTICED

During Angelic Reiki healing sessions I would often see AA Michael and the Angels removing the cords one by one, rather than cutting them. What I also noticed is that some of these cords were really long and thick, suggesting that the energy within had built up over time. In fact, what I learnt is that some of these cords went back to past lifetime.

Once the cords had been removed the space they had occupied would often be cleansed of any remaining, unwanted energy. The area would be sealed with light and throughout the process, I would often be given some insight into the:

  • Energy
  • Root cause
  • People
  • Feelings

Some of these roots will have gone back to situations or people in the past, including past lives, childhood and teenage years. All of which gave a clear indication of what needed to be released in order to facilitate the healing and letting go process.


WHAT I LEARNED

Removing cords

Removing the cord from the root helps to identify the root cause. That is the place where the thought, behaviour and pattern were first formed. Now, sometimes this is very obvious and is something that you are consciously aware of. However, there are times when the root cause of an issue you are dealing with is not blatantly obvious, eg: soulmate relationships or money issues.

In getting to the heart of the issue you can then take responsibility for your own growth and movement forward. Taking action on changing those behaviours, stories, beliefs that have kept you in a cycle or situation that doesn’t serve you.


Divine light + positivity

In sealing the space with Divine light and love this was a way of cleansing the space, removing any excess unwanted energy. I found this supportive in facilitating the healing process, especially when the cords have been attached for some time.

The additional benefit is that it sets a new foundation that can be built upon. That is built upon using energy: thoughts, desires and behaviours, that are positively aligned with what you want to experience. It’s really like a closing a door to the old and the creation of the new. Yet, this requires you to be conscious and aware to ensure you are not simply filling the space with more of the old.


Awareness, intuition and responsibility

Healing is a practice that requires you to show up and use your own awareness in order to facilitate that healing process. Your awareness is especially important during those times when healing may feel challenging and when you are tempted to just slip back into old ways.  This requires you to use your awareness to notice where energy cords are attached that no longer serve you or are draining you. It also means that noticing when you are slipping into old patterns and cycles. Then use wisdom, tools and the gift of your intuition to guide you towards making healthier, life-affirming choices.


WHAT NEXT?

Now, many people will have their own way of removing cords and, as I always say: If that works for you then keep going with it. However, there will be some people who, like me, find that simply cutting the cord wasn’t helpful. If this is you then if it resonates then try working with AA Michael to remove the cord from the root and make a commitment to really showing up for yourself, as well as your healing.

Keep in touch and let me know how it goes.

With love xo