Why You Should Stop Waiting For Your Ex To Give You Closure

Stop looking for closure from the other person.

Be it a break-up, workplace bullying, friendship betrayal, or a family bust-up.

Closure does not lie in the hands of the other person.

Even if they admit that they were in the wrong.

Even if you get the illusive apology that you’ve been waiting for.

Even if they give you answers that you’ve been looking for.

Even if you are now on speaking terms.

Even if they beg to have you back in their life.

That sense of closure will still evade you.

Because closure doesn’t come from the other person.

It comes from you.

The closure comes from you deciding that you’re no longer going to hold onto the past and all the painful emotions.

Closure comes from choosing to not replays the situation and imaginary stories and ideals in your mind over and over again.

That closure will come when you decide that you are better than that and deserve more.

The closure comes when you see that you are not who they said you were.

Closure comes when you say “Fuck that shit. Enough is enough.

Because that closure you are seeking for, can only come from you.

And when it does that is the moment when you choose to…

  • Forgive
  • Let go
  • Heal
  • Delete
  • Block
  • Move on

This is when you finally take your power back and choose yourself.

Are you ready to give yourself the gift of closure?

Are you ready to use your breakup as a tool to elevate and transform into the woman you were created to be?



Lets begin with: What are chakras?

Essentially they are energy centres inside and outside the body. Energy flows through these centres and around the body. However, energy expands, shrinks and become stagnant depending on what’s going on within and around us. Too little or too much energy can lead to imbalances that manifest physically, mentally or emotionally.

There are 7 main chakras in the body and they are:

Root Chakra – Red
Sacral Chakra – Orange
Solar Plexus Chakra – Yellow
Heart Chakra – Geeen
Throat Chakra – Blue
Third Eye Chakra – Indigo
Crown Chakra – Purple

Each one corresponding to a particular colour, as indicated above. The chakras also correspond to different body parts too. Which is useful to know because some imbalances in the chakras can manifest themselves as ailments or pain the body.

Over the next few weeks I’ll sharing more about each Chakra in turn. Also sharing beauty tips and routines, aligned with each chakra, to support you to also embrace your own natural beauty.

Today, it is all about the Heart Chakra.

Location: Heart region
Colour: Green and pink
Resonance: Love, compassion, attachments, trust and passion
Physical symptoms: Breathing or heart related issues, possibly Asthma
Heart Chakra imbalanced: Lack of trust, pain from heart break and inability to get over emotional pain, holding onto emotional pain, co-dependent, isolation and fear of rejection
Heart Chakra balance: Self-loving, compassion for self and others, strong trust in self and in others too


This chakra relates to love and connection. When in balance you feel connected to others and are able to connect with others on different levels. You are also able to give and receive love without conditions. Whilst experiencing a greater sense of love and compassion for yourself, as well as others.

The Heart Chakra tends to be one that is blocked as you experience life challenges, such as heartache, loss, grief, bereavement or hold onto resentments towards those who have hurt you. Struggles in manifesting, especially in love are possible when this chakra is blocked because you are: limiting your capacity to feel loving energy and for energy to flow from the higher to lower chakras (and vice versa) to bring your manifestations into form.

Green is the colour that is associated with the Heart Chakra. However, when the heart chakra is vibrating at a higher frequency or when we are connecting to that Higher Heart Chakra area then we may connect to the colour pink. Either way both colours give off that vibe of healing, love and compassion.

Bring Green/Pink into your life as a Divine reminder to give yourself the healing, love and nurturing that you so freely have given to others. Wearing Green (or pink) or eating green foods are a simple way that you can support, balance or activate the Heart Chakra on a daily basis. I found that doing this alongside the deeper work of energy healing and inner work to be really beneficial way of facilitating self-healing. See the image below for the ways that you can nail your mood and vibration.

Crystals are also linked to the different chakras in your body. You can carry them with you, hold them during meditation, place over your heart chakra during meditation or wear in the form of a necklace which rests at the Heart chakra. Even simply having a Heart chakra crystals around your home can help to raise the vibration to the frequency of love. One of the obvious heart crystals is Rose Quartz. However, other suggestions include Green Aventurine, Green Calcite, Mangano Calcite and Malachite. You can discover heart healing rituals in my Crystals and Rituals ebook.

Angelic Reiki is an energy healing modality channelled from the Angels/Angelic Kingdom. In an Angelic Reiki session the simply creates and holds a space for you to receive healing directly from the Angelic Kingdom. Doing so, without human intervention in the forms of recalling symbols, hand movements or placing hands over/on the body.

The Angels can go to the root of the issue where the problem/pain manifested, where the energy can be transmuted by the Angels or brought to the conscious awareness of the client. Allowing them to complete the soul lesson or gain whatever wisdom, blessing or understanding that they need in order to facilitate their healing.

Emotional pain and trauma often leaves an energetic imprint, leading to blocks and stagnant energy. Sometimes we cannot remember the origins of the pain/trauma because our mind will not allow it (it’s blocked out) for our safety. Yet, the Angels can go to origins to bring healing and transmuting of the energy. So that it can no longer hold you back.

There are obviously lots of other forms of healing and you must choose what resonates with you. However, I share this as it helped me immensely with Heart Chakra healing and I offer Angelic Reiki sessions.

Affirmations are great if your mind and heart energy are congruent – in agreement – with the affirmation. Where there is no agreement between mind and heart, believing and accepting the affirmations can be really hard. Often resulting in people giving up altogether. One way that you can help yourself is by being really mindful of the wording that you use and simply checking in with yourself to see how it feels. Some Heart Chakra affirmation suggestions are:

  • I completely love and accept myself
  • I open my heart to give and receive love
  • I forgive myself
  • I am enough
  • I am worthy of giving and receiving unconditional love

Blending affirmations with ‘Mirror Work’ can also be really powerful for those who are ready for it.

The most powerful spiritual practice of them all and the one that every single spiritual teacher ‘worth their salt’ will speak about. That being said, I know first-hand how challenging it can be to even contemplate the idea of forgiving someone who has hurt you. Particularly, when the pain caused was not even your fault. However, I also understand that holding onto the anger, bitterness, jealousy, rage and resentment keeps you in an energetic deadlock with the person, as well as the situation from the past. Often resulting in stuck energy on the one hand, whilst also being an energetic match for more of the same.

Forgiveness can begin with setting the intention that you will forgive yourself and the other person(s). Then allowing yourself to be guided by the angels, your intuition, Higher Self or God to ways to support yourself in truly forgiving.

It can be a long journey and you may not get there overnight. However, with practice you eventually arrive at the point where you feel that energy of lightness and peace within that comes from forgiveness.

Click here for a simple prayer from my Crystals and Rituals ebook that you can use alongside your crystal healing rituals or alone.

Chanel Marie – Experienced Teacher (QTS), Master Angelic Reiki Healer, Crystal Therapist, VTCT Beauty Therapist, OPI GelColor Nail Tech, Psychic Medium, Spiritual & Self-Love Mentor and Soul Awakening Guide. You can find out more about working with me here.