law of attraction, love, love and relationships, relationships

Why you keep attracting the ‘wrong’ guys or the same crappy relationships

In this blog post I want to address an issue that many people struggle with and ask me about all the time:

Why do I keeep attracting the same guys or types of relationships?

And this was something that I struggled with for a long, long time. Yet when I came to and was guided to some of the realisations that I’ll share in this post it helped me to shift my perspective. Which helped me in not falling into the same patterns and having to go back to square one in terms of healing, aligning and attracting what I want.

So, in sharing I’m hoping that it will help you in some way too and get you aligned with experiencing the love you want.


1. Stop labelling them as the ‘wrong’ man 
In the world of spirituality, energy and law of attraction there is no real wrong or right. Yet there are many lessons and blessings. For every relationship that hasn’t ended with ‘happily ever after’ there will be a lesson and blessing to be savioured from it. For every man who has abandoned you, cheated on you or let you down there will be more lessons and blessings to be gained.

It’s up to you to find them.

It could be that you found your own strength, fell back in love with you, started a new hobby that became a successful business, discovered the power of forgiveness or taught you the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries.

The bottom line is when you set an intention to attract your true love, your soul and all of your spiritual team may have to show you your barriers to love first. Once you overcome those barriers you get to align, receive and enjoy.


2. Time to change the record 
What record about love, relationships and men are you playing on repeat in your mind or aloud amongst your girlfriends over wine on a Friday night? 

You’ll know what your record is by the way in which you:

Talk about men, love and relationships 
React or respond when you see loved up couples or hear someone is dating someone new 

The thoughts and responses that you have are all very, very telling about how you truly feel about your chances of being in a loving, happy and committed relationship with the man of your dreams. 

This is important to know when it comes to the mind because they say that your mind cannot hold conflicting thoughts, stories and beliefs. That which has the weakest vibration will be cancelled out by the one with the dominant vibration. So, if you think and feel you are not good enough and all men are cheating bastards, yet say you want to meet ‘the one’. Which thought do you think carries the most weight?


3. Holding on to the past 
I see it a lot and am guilty of having done this myself. It’s something that’s easily done especially when you’ve invested time and energy into a relationship, or when it’s been a while since you met someone whose sparked a light within. However, when the spark has gone or when the relationship is dead, it’s important to find a way to let it all go.

Holding onto the past equates to holding onto old energy. Energy that’s ready to be released. I learned the hard way that until I energetically let go and made up my mind to move on, I would play the going back and forth game much longer than needed. 

Sometimes the new and the better relationship + person, are right there for you yet whilst you’re holding on you won’t see it. There are times that even when you do see it you fail to appreciate it or you pick faults where there are none. Unintentionally, talking yourself out of the relationship you’ve been dreaming of.


4. Check the company you keep
Carrying on from letting go, you may find that some people in your circle need to be added to the list. 

Yep, the sad truth is: Not everyone is for you!

If you are rolling with people who are constantly male-bashing, don’t clap when you win, seldom ask how you are but happily moan about their own life or constantly repeat BS cycles in love and life, decide if you want to be hanging with them every weekend. 

IThe people in your circle should be supportive. They should have your back and want to see you win. Being inspired and uplifted goes a long way too.

Notice who’s there for you and don’t be afraid to make some edits. If only for a specific period of time.


5. How you feel about yourself matters
How you truly feel about yourself often resonates on the outside and the way that you treat yourself. It also has an impact on what and who you attract, as well as what you entertain or put up with too.

When you are investing in yourself and naturally feeling good you are not going to want anyone killing your vibe. Therefore, you’ll be more discerning about the relationships you get into and the men you engage with. In fact, I’ve found that when I started investing in me it was much easier to separate the boys from the potential kings.

So, what can you do to invest in how you look and feel from the inside out?

This might involve making changes to your morning routine, such as introducing gratitude, prayer, meditation and mirror work. Alternatively, you may want to do more outer beauty work to raise your vibe, such as changing your eating habits, hitting the gym, updating your wardrobe or experimenting with colour in your beauty routine. Maybe it’s a combination of inner and outer beauty.

Whatever it is make sure that your attention and intention revolves around you. Raising your own vibration so that you feel and look amazing from the inside out.


Once you notice your patterns and habits you have the opportunity to make a different choice.

People of all kinds will still be attracted to you. However, with wisdom, awareness and discernment you can make smarter (for want of a better word) decisions about who you get into a relationship with. After all, it is you who choose what and who you entertain and for how long. Don’t prolong the lesson and starve yourself of the ultimate blessing that your heart desires.

So, that’s all I have for you this week. If anything has resonated with you and you’ve enjoyed the post please do hit the follow button, as well as share this blog on your social media pages. If you wanted to ask me any questions or book a 1-2-1 session based on this topic then contact me here.

With lots of love and gratitude xo

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Beauty, Intuition, law of attraction, manifesting, nail polish, setting intentions, spirituality

The 4 keys to manifesting + how I used them to manifest free training with a global brand

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I’m delighted to announce that I’m now a certified OPI GelColor nail tech!

What’s even better is that I manifested the course absolutely FREE! Yep, free training with the world’s leading nail brand! Here’s how it all came about…..

After qualifying as a beauty therapist I decided that I wanted to begin by specialising in nails. I’ve always loved experimenting with colour and sparkles on my own nails. Loving the way you can complement your mood or add a little something extra to your outfit, just by painting your nails. So it seemed like a no-brainer.

However, as any nail tech knows there are so many different gel nail brands out there. So for a new nail tech like me, making a decision isn’t easy.

After taking advice from nail techs and trying out the big brands for myself, I came up with a list and enlisted my spiritual team to assist me in making a decision. How?

I asked for a sign.

A sign to decide which brand is best for me to train with and use on the natural nails of you lovely lot!

All signs pointed to one brand + one training provider.


FOLLOWING THE SIGNS

Initially, I hadn’t intended to work with my spiritual team to manifest a free place on the course. All I wanted was to make the optimal choice when selecting a brand to work with and training provider to learn with. Yet, the Universe and God clearly had other ideas.

The next available course was being provided by Capital Hair + Beauty in Brighton on the coming Monday. It meant that I would have to take a day off work and make the trip up to Brighton by bus and train. However, I decided it was worth the trip and booked my place.

Although it wasn’t all plain sailing.


WHEN THINGS DON’T GO ACCORDING TO PLAN

On the day of the course I got up early made the trip up to Brighton. When I arrived I made my way to the coffee shop and went to check my phone to see which bus I needed to get to the venue. That’s when I noticed the missed call and voice message from the training provider.

The course had been cancelled.

Initially, I was calm and even joked with the receptionist that OPI should offer us a lamp or a free course as compensation! However, as the morning went on my ego kicked in:

‘You took a day off work for nothing.’

‘You trusted the signs, for what?’

‘Maybe beauty isn’t for you.’

However, one thing I’ve learnt is that when the ego pipes up:

Let it have its say. Then silence it with gratitude + prayer.

That night I took my own advice and surrendered. Prayed and affirmative prayer. Being sure to ask for what I wanted: To receive a full refund. To be fairly compensated. To be offered a place on the right course. Following my prayer, I contacted Capital about new dates for the course. Yet, I also felt guided to contact OPI about training with them directly and mention the cancellation that had occurred that day.

The very next day I received an email offering me a free place to train with OPI at one of their training venues. I also received a full refund from Capital and an OPI ProSpa kit (which is AHMAZING!)


THE OPTIMAL CONDITIONS FOR MANIFESTING

The lesson: The optimal conditions for manifesting my desires into reality involved surrender, prayer, intuition and action. And those conditions could help you too. Here’s how…..

  1. Surrender clears the decks. It involves letting go of control + anything else that creates resistance.
  2. Prayer re-establishes that connection to Source and it’s also where intentions are set.
  3. Intuition guides and protects. Sometimes it doesn’t make logical sense yet it leads you in the direction of your intention and prayers.
  4. Take inspired action towards making your prayers and intentions a reality. This creates the energy for synchronicity, divinely timed next steps and your intentions to unfold. The Universe and God will meet you each step of the way.

Now, along the way, there may be hiccups and minor setbacks, as my manifestation has shown. However, it’s worth remembering that everything will unfold in divine timing, so there is no need to hold on so tightly. In fact, I am sure that if I had been obsessing about getting a free place on the course things would have turned out a lot differently.