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How do you let go of someone you love?

Let Go, Break-ups

At the time of a Full Moon we often talk about letting go.

Releasing people, things and situations that you feel or know are no longer supporting you in manifesting your dreams into reality. Or, indeed, do not support you in becoming the person who is living the life that you are wanting to align with.

But, how easy is it to just let go?

How easy is it to let go of a relationship and ex that you love, as well invested time and energy into?

How easy is it to let go of a painful memory or experience from your past? Maybe even one that dates back to your childhood.

I know that it’s not always that easy.

Even with the cord cutting meditations, forgiveness practices and ‘letting go’ rituals available via Google, YouTube….. Still some people struggle with letting go and releasing, especially when it comes to love. Letting go for a short while only to fall right back into the arms of that lover and into the familiar chaos.

What’s up with that, huh?

Well, from both my own experience and that of others I’ve noticed a few things that hold people back. So, let me share them with you.


1. You don’t let go of love

When people let go they think this means letting go of the love. The thing is: Can you ever let go of what you perceive to be true and/or unconditional love?

What tends to have the tightest grip is attachment to the experience and the perceived outcome that you believe arises from letting go. (PAUSE. Take that in for a moment.)

This might include:

  • Being single for ever
  • What people might say
  • That person meeting someone else first
  • The regret or shame

Experiences are a natural part of life. With each one and each personal encounter being an opportunity for growth, blessings and new learning. This is what I’ve found often leads us to aligning with what we want, who is truly for us and our best selves.


2. Your motivation

Let’s be real. Sometimes people hold on for selfish reasons. Reasons that are motivated by fear, lack, scarcity or control. All of which are the total opposite of love.

Be honest about why you are holding on and ask yourself if this is really an expression of love.


3. You are not a victim

When faced with the situation of having to let go some people start asking questions such as:

  • Why me?
  • Why is this happening to me?
  • Why can’t I be lucky/find love?
  • What’s wrong with me?

These questions are natural at first yet I’ve found that it doesn’t help to dwell on them. Why? Because you tend to plunge yourself further down into the rabbit hole.

Three questions to ask instead would be:

  • How does it serve me to hold on?
  • How does if serve me to let go?
  • Which brings me to closer to my Divine purpose?

Notice the difference in the energy of these questions and how empowering they have the potential to be.


Letting go is often a process and not something that happens overnight.

Give yourself time and space.

Connect with your mentors, coaches and guides who can often give you fresh perspective or wisdom because they are not in your situation.

Use the guidance that comes through with discernment.

Trust and have faith that you’ll bloom from the experience. Stronger, wiser, more loving and beautiful than before.

With love + gratitude

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Heart + Self Healing

Self and heart healing

I came to self and heart healing almost a decade ago. Like many, it was a time in my life where I felt as if my heart had broken into a million pieces. Not yet recognising that rock bottom would be the place where a new, better version of me and embodiment of love would be created.

Maybe as you read this now you are in the midst of your own heartbreak. Experiencing sadness, pain, loss, resentment or anger and feeling as if there is no hope for you where matters of the heart are concerned. Whereas I won’t tell you how to think and feel, I can share with you some insight into heart and self-healing. Doing so, with the intention to inspire you to take those tentative steps towards self and heart healing, as I did 10 years ago.


HEART RESEARCH + THE ANCIENTS

Heart Healing meditation

The mind is given much kudos for being a driving force in supporting you to manifest your intentions into your life. With little regard given to the heart. In fact, being heart centred or focusing upon your heart is considered wishy-washy or irrelevant.

However, recent research has shown that the heart is effectively like the second brain. Holding within it much wisdom alongside the memories and feelings of yesteryear. Due to its strong electromagnetic field (5,000 times stronger than the brain), whatever you feel within your heart can be felt by other people several feet away.

It is this very idea of the heart as such a powerful organ of the body that has been echoed throughout time, namely by the Ancient Egyptians.

During funeral ceremonies, the heart would be the only organ not removed because it was revered as being the throne of wisdom, where thoughts and emotions resided.

As for the brain. Well, that was the only organ that would be removed because it was considered to have no real significance.

So, what does this have to do with heart healing and feeling better after experiencing heartache or pain?

When you think about love where do you commonly feel the expansion of energy?

In your heart.

When you split with an ex or pine for an ex-lover, where do you feel the tight and contracted energy?

In your heart.

So much of what is felt emanates from the heart. This is great when you feel good, happy, joyful and all loved up.

I mean think about the meaning that life takes on, all the synchronicity you experience and your ability to bounce back when the heart is expanded.

This is in contrast to the lack of clarity and victim thinking of “Why me?” Which is often followed up with that feeling of being stuck and unlucky in love.

From this simple explanation alone it becomes apparent that the energy emanating from your heart (based on your thoughts and emotions) has an impact on your energy field. Therefore an impact on what you invite into your energy and your life.

By clearing your heart of the energy of fear, lack, pain, anger, scarcity….. you release yourself from the burden of the past. In doing so, healing your heart and increasing the probability of aligning with your true soul-inspired intentions.

It is common that when heart healing is activated the connection between the Divinity and wisdom that lies within is amplified. A concept that has long since been echoed by mystics and spiritual teachers from different world religions. Each one believing that the soul, the Divine or the Buddha-like self resides within the chambers of the heart.

From my own personal practice of self and heart healing, I’ve noticed this to be true. Whilst also finding that my alignment increases when engaging my heart. In fact, on one occasion, I recall overriding the doubt of the mind by engaging from the heart and manifested a miracle healing in less than 24 hours.

A HEART HEALING MEDITATION

Healing the Heart meditation

This meditation has it’s origins in Tantra and is a powerful way to release heavy feelings from your heart.

A simple meditation that engages both the mind and the heart. It has been known to move people to tears (myself included) as the energies leave the body. Whilst you focus on replacing this heavy energy with unconditional love.

You can click here to access this meditation.

ANGELIC REIKI

Angelic Reiki Healing with Chanel Marie

I’ve seen and personally experienced profound shifts from Angelic Reiki sessions. Especially as clients start to release that energy that has left them feeling heavy from within.

My own personal experience evoked memories from the past (and past lives), something that isn’t uncommon. However, rather than getting caught up and lost in the story of that memory, I found it brought understanding that had been missing. Thus, closure on a repetitive relationship and cycle, simply by observing, releasing and replacing with unconditional love.

ROSE QUARTZ

Rose Quartz is famed for being the love crystal. The Crystal that you pop into your bra, adorn yourself with or add to a crystal elixir when you want to attract love into your life. However, it’s way more powerful than that.

Vibrating at the frequency of unconditional love working with Rose Quartz will reveal, one by one, anything within or without which is not in alignment with its vibration. Therefore, making it an excellent crystal to work with when you know within that you are ready to dissolve your barriers to love.

Thankfully, the energy of Rose Quartz is gentle and soothing. So, although what is revealed might be a hard pill to swallow the soothing energy of Rose Quartz can support and guide you to refuel yourself with unconditional love.


Chanel Marie is an intuitive guide and certified Angelic Master + Crystal Therapist guiding you back to you using modern mystical tools and practices. You can connect with Chanel for daily spiritual inspiration via her Facebook and Instagram. For further details on her treatments and services, please click here.

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