At the time of a Full Moon we often talk about letting go.
Releasing people, things and situations that you feel or know are no longer supporting you in manifesting your dreams into reality. Or, indeed, do not support you in becoming the person who is living the life that you are wanting to align with.
But, how easy is it to just let go?
How easy is it to let go of a relationship and ex that you love, as well invested time and energy into?
How easy is it to let go of a painful memory or experience from your past? Maybe even one that dates back to your childhood.
I know that it’s not always that easy.
Even with the cord cutting meditations, forgiveness practices and ‘letting go’ rituals available via Google, YouTube….. Still some people struggle with letting go and releasing, especially when it comes to love. Letting go for a short while only to fall right back into the arms of that lover and into the familiar chaos.
What’s up with that, huh?
Well, from both my own experience and that of others I’ve noticed a few things that hold people back. So, let me share them with you.
1. You don’t let go of love
When people let go they think this means letting go of the love. The thing is: Can you ever let go of what you perceive to be true and/or unconditional love?
What tends to have the tightest grip is attachment to the experience and the perceived outcome that you believe arises from letting go. (PAUSE. Take that in for a moment.)
This might include:
- Being single for ever
- What people might say
- That person meeting someone else first
- The regret or shame
Experiences are a natural part of life. With each one and each personal encounter being an opportunity for growth, blessings and new learning. This is what I’ve found often leads us to aligning with what we want, who is truly for us and our best selves.
2. Your motivation
Let’s be real. Sometimes people hold on for selfish reasons. Reasons that are motivated by fear, lack, scarcity or control. All of which are the total opposite of love.
Be honest about why you are holding on and ask yourself if this is really an expression of love.
3. You are not a victim
When faced with the situation of having to let go some people start asking questions such as:
- Why me?
- Why is this happening to me?
- Why can’t I be lucky/find love?
- What’s wrong with me?
These questions are natural at first yet I’ve found that it doesn’t help to dwell on them. Why? Because you tend to plunge yourself further down into the rabbit hole.
Three questions to ask instead would be:
- How does it serve me to hold on?
- How does if serve me to let go?
- Which brings me to closer to my Divine purpose?
Notice the difference in the energy of these questions and how empowering they have the potential to be.
Letting go is often a process and not something that happens overnight.
Give yourself time and space.
Connect with your mentors, coaches and guides who can often give you fresh perspective or wisdom because they are not in your situation.
Use the guidance that comes through with discernment.
Trust and have faith that you’ll bloom from the experience. Stronger, wiser, more loving and beautiful than before.
With love + gratitude